A Letter to My 13 Year Old Self

June 20, 2018
For the past few weeks, I’ve been a mush of nostalgia. It all started one Saturday when I had just completed my weekly chores and was headed to the post office before attending  littles’s 2nd birthday party. It hit me. I’m a real adult. I began to grieve, yes grieve, my youth. I thought about the the much simpler times that used to feel like the end of the world. Then, Drake decided to release music video to his song “I’m Upset”, where he basically reunited the entire O.G. Degrassi cast (except JT), and had my generation reliving the good ole’ days. Gosh so much has changed. And then to turn the situation into the ultimate cry fest, THE BOY WHO BROKE MY HEART IN THE 7TH GRADE SLID INTO MY DMS. I lost it. Why was he talking to me? And why did it make me so mad?

I got to thinking about how big of deal life felt at 13. I took life so seriously, and for what? I wish I knew then what I know now. But since life doesn’t work that way, I’ve decided to write a letter to my 13 year old self. Ya know, to give her a heads up.

Dear Des,

No one calls you that right now, but they will, and you will love it. What a crazy season of life this is for you. You’re officially a teenager, you just got your first smart phone, AND you are getting into boys. Breathe. You have SO much life ahead of you. A life you cannot even imagine.

I wish I could shake you. I wish you could see the weight your actions carry. Be nice. To your peers, teachers, and family. You don’t have to always be right, and you are still a child. Your teachers want to help you. They want you to grow, and be the best you that you can be. So get off your high horse, fix your attitude, and allow them to teach you.

I know that your friends seem like your whole world, and you’ve got AMAZING friends, but they wont always be by your side. Cherish them, but don’t depend on them. You have got to place your worth in the hands of someone so much greater. And you will, but that’s still a few years away.

And no, not boys. The boys you have fallen head over heels for will break your heart. Both of them. Even the one that will stick around for a few years. They are boys, Des. Just boys.

Its been a crappy year I am sure, but it gets better. And then worse. And then better. Just know that there is so much in store for you. The years that lie ahead are full of hills and valleys that will shape you into an adult you don’t even know exists inside of you. Yes you will be an adult! You will have a car, and a job, and an apartment, and BILLS! So many bills. But don’t worry, you’re not doing too bad.

So stop sweating the small stuff. Cherish every moment of your youth. Go crazy over Bieber, sing your little heart out, live well. This is only the beginning.


21 year old Des


  1. Seriously where does time go? I saw some meme about there being a problem and looking around for an adult, and then realizing that YOU ARE THE ADULT... ahh yeah, that hit home. lol

  2. This is such a good post! I will even have to show this to my almost soon to be 13 year old daughter. Thanks for sharing your story! :)

  3. It's always interesting going back to our younger selves and seeing how we used to think everything was a huge deal haha!

  4. This is really sweet. I saw a photo of 13 year old des on IG!

  5. I wish I would have had a letter from myself when I was 13! I think we all probably could have used some of that advice!

  6. Time flies! Your letter can be used as great advice for teens :)